“Be yourself” is quite a lofty request.
There was a time when to be yourself meant noticing all the things that were wrong with you and avoiding them.
It resulted in a feeling of being wrong, since yourself was all of these things you had to change.
You’d be looking at the weaknesses you had to improve, trying to get better and talking to yourself like this: “I should be better at math. I should _______(fill in the blank).”
Hate numbers? Do them anyway. Hate spelling, memorize more.
That’s how it used to be at home and at work.
Like a left-handed person being forced to write with their non-dominant hand, you’d squirm to learn to sew or build a table when making things was your least favourite thing.
Then, it changed. At work, it became all about strengths. Work to your strengths, and let others do what you don’t do well.
What a relief.
But there are many more complexities to this Be Yourself injunction.
Celebrate Your Differences
For instance, what if you didn’t quite fit in?
What if you were one of those introverted kids, teens or adults?
Or geeky ones? Maybe wacky. Even unconventional. Spontaneous. Funny. Creative even. Or deadly serious. Maybe on the morose side.
Now here’s where a bit of help would have been, uh – helpful!
Different was never easy if you didn’t get support for it nor for seeing the gifts in it.
Now, what if you had been told that when you were authentic, you were also most compelling to others?
Would that have blown you away, made life easier?
Oh YES! Yes PLEASE!
Does one wild flower tell itself to shine less than another one?[Tweet “When you are authentic, you are also most compelling to others.”]
I spent thousands of dollars on a 10-month leadership program where I found out that I was my most compelling self when I was more of me, not less. And certainly not when I was hiding, playing small, or thinking that I was “too much.”
It turns out that if you’ve been through a leadership program, if you’re an entrepreneur or have watched others who are, you know that being yourself is your brand.
And your brand is about what makes you stand out from the rest of the world.
Whether you work in an organization or for yourself, connecting to and being rooted and anchored in yourself is your BIG advantage.
When you bring a unique perspective and co-create with others, you become springboards for each other, the necessary magic ingredients that generate new ideas and new ways of doing things that increase the likelihood that your businesses or organizations will thrive.
A Place You Can Trust
To find out what your own soul wants and needs, what’s essential to your heart, and living from that place, is the job of growing into yourself as the individual you were meant to be and become.
Carl Jung called this the “individuation” process.
When you are clear on your specific values and what is most meaningful to you, this becomes the compass from which you can navigate easily.
Then, when to say Yes or No is self-evident.
How you spend your time and with whom becomes obvious.[Tweet “Connecting to & being rooted & anchored in yourself is your BIG advantage.”]
And how you contribute and make an impact is your choice.
You may have spent a great deal of your life trying on many different ways of being yourself, of finding what success means to you, of playing by different rules.
Some fit for you, some didn’t.
At times, you even had to break with the beliefs of your parents, caregivers – and even ancestors.
You can make a life for yourself where you feel comfortable in your skin, where you are valued for your contributions and where you create experiences that fill you up with confidence, joy and hope.
If you want to accelerate your transformation, my program for successful professionals in workplaces are geared to getting you comfortable with bringing more of you, in your own style and letting go of what no longer serves you.
If you want a life that makes you feel great about yourself and inspires you and others, call me for a free complementary session to discuss possibilities – right here. This is an exciting moment for you.